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August 17, 2007 / beidson

Lies Women Believe And The Truth That Sets Them Free, Part 2

My previous blog was in response to Nancy Leigh DeMoss’ book, titled Lies Womem Believe And The Truth That Sets Them Free, in which she responds to current cultural views about childbearing and rearing.

Mrs. DeMoss quotes Mary Pride, from her book The Way Home:

“Family planning is the mother of abortion. A generation had to be indoctrinated in the ideal of planning children around personal convenience before abortion could become popular. We Christians raise an outcry against abortion today, and rightly so. But the reason we have to fight those battles today is because we lost them thirty years ago. Once couples began to look upon children as creatures of their own making, who they could plan into their lives as they chose or not, all reverence for human life was lost . . .

. . . . Abortion is first of all a heart attitude. ‘Me first.’ ‘My career first.’ ‘My reputation first.’ ‘My convenience first.’ ‘My financial plans first.’ And these exact same choices are what family planning, which the churches have endorsed for three decades, is all about.”

Many teenage believers are given all kinds of biblical (and unbiblical) counsel about sex, relationships, drugs, money, and the like. Parents and youth ministries do much to direct teenagers to make wise, biblical choices. But perhaps many parents and preaching/teaching ministries fail to direct teenagers to consider what Scripture has to say about the the first five years of their lives after graduation. Is college the only option? Is it foolish to get married right out of high school, or to pursue local church ministry, or even international ministry, or to do all three? And would it be unwise to be parents by the age of twenty? Twenty-two? Twenty-five?

Mrs. DeMoss lists several questions that women (and men) use to justify childlessness and family planning:

  • “How will we ever provide for more children? We’re barely making ends meet, as it is. What about college tuition?”
  • “I just don’t have the patience to handle a lot of children.”
  • “If we have more children, we won’t have enough time for us as a couple.”
  • “My friends [or parents] will think we’re crazy if we have more kids. They already think we have too many.”
  • “If we were to let the Lord decide how many children we should have, we’d have two dozen kids!”

I’ve heard these questions before, and have even asked them myself. At the core of these kind of objections is a lack of trust in God and an abundance of love for one’s self. Not to be crass, but our reproductive organs were made to reproduce. When we think that they are for pleasure only, we misunderstand God’s intention for us as his image-bearers, as life-givers.

Christian women (and men) must first of all read their Bibles! And after reading and studying the Scriptures, must ask themselves what God requires of them. An 18 year old graduating female ought to have the Scriptures opened as she fills out her application for college, seeking God’s wisdom and direction on the matter. A young, entrepreneurial couple ought to be on their knees before God in prayer before they leave the house on a business adventure. And tired, busy parents of two toddlers ought to ask God if another child would bring glory to Jesus Christ. In all things, especially childbearing and parenting, we must pray, “Lord Jesus, by your Spirit and by the power of your gospel, bring glory to God by my life.”

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